Do you ever wonder how your child will cope when he starts preschool?
If he will be able to follow instructions, make friends and speak up with he needs help?
Are you worried if he will settle down quickly when he cries during the early days of preschool, and wonder if there is anything you can do to minimize that?
If your answer to any of the questions above is yes, then you might want to take a look at some of the issues discussed in this article…..
The preschool years are amongst the most crucial times in a person’s life. This is when his learning capacity increases significantly and his learning is so spontaneous and effortless. This rapid growth doesn’t only happen to their physical state but it also affects their intellectual, language, emotional, social and character development. As such, it is important that we prepare our children well before they get to preschool so that when they do step into one, they will hit the ground running. Here are three main themes that we need to address:
Separation anxiety is very real and according to some childhood anxiety experts, is seen as the equivalent of depression in adults. This happens when a child is separated from his primary caregiver whom he is attached to. Contrary to what we may have been told by our parents (and grandparents) a strong attachment between a child and his primary caregiver especially during the early years, is vital to all the different aspects of his development.
This is because a child who has a secure attachment to someone is often a very happy, calm and contented child and this is a really good platform for him to develop a good self-image about himself, which translates to his ability to relate to others, to communicate well, to form trusting relationships with others, to be resilient; and it also puts him in an optimal condition to learn as much as he can during his preschool years.
As such, if you want your child to deal with separation anxiety, to settle in quickly into a new environment and to do well in preschool (or any other learning environment), you will need to start nurturing this attachment with your child. Foster a strong bond and trusting relationship with your child so that he will feel comfortable coming to you with anything that may be bothering him and his trust will also put you in a good position to help him deal with his insecurities when he is anxious.
A good place to start would be to offer assurance when he is in distress. I know this is somewhat counter-intuitive as I was brought up thinking that when children are ‘clingy’, we need to make sure they don’t become overly dependent on us for emotional support or they will never learn to self-sooth.
However, child developmental psychology tells us that children are born to seek out and bond with significant adults in his environment because it is a survival instinct and if they find themselves in a warm and nurturing environment with adults who are sensitive to their needs, they develop a positive self-image that becomes the foundation which enables them to learn to be independent and self-sufficient.
In order to foster a strong attachment with your child, here are things you can do:
And here are some things you really should try to avoid:
We all want our children to be self-confident because research shows that children who are self-confident are more likely to problem-solve and to take calculated risks. These are all the necessary ingredients for being creative thinkers and for being successful in school and life. In contrast, children who lack self-confidence tend to have large amounts of self-doubt.
These children tend to retract into their own comfort zones, tend to get unsettled easily when they come across new experiences, are not as resilient, are less likely to problem-solve and take risks and tend to seek out adult’s approval all the time for everything that they do.
These children lack the ability to make decisions and to be accountable for them and though they may be young now and we may not need them to make lots of huge decisions just yet, but how young children feel about themselves during these formative years tends to form the foundation for their lifelong attempt to define themselves and to make important life decisions.
So how can we teach our children to develop self-confidence? Unfortunately there are no short cuts to this. We need to give them lots of opportunities to do things on their own, in other words, to be independent. Once they develop independence and they learn that they can depend on themselves to get simple things done without being totally reliant on an adult’s help, they will start to feel a sense of achievement, and in time, that automatically translates to self-confidence. Here are some things we can do to help our children develop independence:
Here are a few things that we should try to avoid:
To ensure that your child transitions smoothly into pre-school life, it will help if we take some time off to consider some of the changes that your child will have to make, to preempt some of his challenges and to prepare for them. Being prepared will significantly minimize anxiety and stress for both your child and you. As such, here are a few things you really need to consider….
I will be publishing a new ebook entitled ‘A Parent’s Guide To Optimizing Your Preschooler’s Learning: Giving them a headstart in school and life’, which will be available on Amazon.com by next week. It will be made free for a limited time so do stay tuned for updates:)
I’m so glad to be bringing you a guest who is going to tell us a bit more about special needs education. I know that most early childhood educators are a little uncomfortable with special needs education or handling children with special needs because we all know that it’s a whole new field and expertise all together.
I’m hoping that this podcast will help answer some of your questions regarding special needs education.
We have with us, Dr Vaughn Lauer who’s a published author, veteran teacher and a huge advocate for special needs education in the USA. He works closely with parents, schools and policy makers to make the education system more effective for children who have learning differences.
I’d strongly suggest that you get a copy of his book.
He has also made an appearance on my other podcast, the Parenting On Cue podcast and has shared some really impressive stuff with parents about special needs education and what they need to do and expect if their children need special needs education. So if you know any parents who have questions or who need help in this area, please feel free share this link with them (www.parentingoncue.com/51).
Dr. Vaughn has dedicated his life to helping teachers and parents to get children the special needs education that they need. If you need assistance in this area and would like to engage his services, feel free to contact him via:
-email : Vaughn.Lauer@verizon.net
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Did you find this podcast helpful? Do you have any other questions that needs clarification? Feel free to leave your questions and feedback in the comments section below and we will get back to you shortly:)
Whether you’re anxious or excited about the new school year, these 3 tips can help you get off to a great start with the children:
1) Create a classroom environment that promotes good behaviour. To learn more, listen to episode #11.
2) Keep an eye on the time. Start off with more interactive circle-time activities and keep them short. Allocate more time for transitions, to allow some leeway for children to finish up their work. To learn more about increasing your students’ attention span, check out episode #20.
3) Use music and movement to calm the children down and to maximize their engagement. To learn how to employ music effectively, tune in to episode #22.
For teachers who need a boost in confidence, check out my online workshop where I’ve put together a series of tutorials that will transform you, your students and your classroom environment.
Finally, there is a podcast for parents that you really should recommend, and it will help you in the long run, as your students will be better prepped for pre-school. If you need to face a parent and don’t know what to say, perhaps its best to recommend that they listen to the ‘Parenting On Cue’ Podcast, specifically episode #8.